How to reconnect with your partner

When a relationship feels distant, aim first for reliable moments of connection rather than forcing instant passion.

Create repeatable time together

A regular walk, screen-free meal or weekly date can be more useful than waiting for spontaneous quality time.

Restore affectionate contact

Non-sexual touch can help couples rediscover warmth without making every affectionate moment a demand for sex.

Ask better questions

Move beyond logistics. Ask what has felt good lately, what has felt difficult, and what each of you misses.

See also: increasing affection and long-term intimacy.